Priority issues

by Revati
(India)

I stay in joint family. My husband and his brother both work on ship. My husband is very close to his brothers kid. My husband's brother made a wrong decision and is now stuck abroad and asked my husband to quit his job to look after his wife and daughter. My husband always prioritizes his brothers kid n wife over me. Every decision in my house is influenced by my sister in law. Whenever me and my husband are going out, she insists we take her kid along with us. Am I wrong in feeling angry about this?

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Jul 27, 2024
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It sounds like your sister-in-law is taking advantage of you both. It’s one thing to help out family members, and another to over do. The real question is why your husband is letting this happen. It may be time for a talk about boundaries and how long this is expected to last

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