No communication no affection help please

by Candy
(Canada )

I’m with my hubby 16 years married 12 .. 3 kids .. I’m so incredibly lonely in my marriage .. no affection, no intimacy, no romance , it’s crushing my self worth .. he works 7 on and 7 off when he is home .. I cry a lot because having him around me and no intimacy makes me so sad .. he has said so many hurtful things to me , zero communication I have expressed my feelings all the time over the years and he even went to counseling with me but has never changed


He is controlling with money and I feel I’m always in trouble and walking on eggshells around him .. I’m so unhappy it hurts. But he’s an ok dad and great provider, he does make me work full time but his job keeps us comfortable.

I feel bad about wanting to leave because of the my kids and amount of history we have . And he’s not an addict or cheater .. help please

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Feb 20, 2022
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by: Anonymous

Cry and celebrate that you cry. Do not go shopping or enforce solitude in your husband. Talk to your husband many times a day. Love.
Feb 19, 2022
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by: Responding

Okay,
This one is for me. Sorry I have been so distant but I am very happy to hear that you need my touch. Really, I want to provide that for you and I can't deny that I have been feeling a deep sense of need for you and to be with us in the future.

I love you
Mark
Feb 19, 2022
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by: Anonymous

Hi,
Sorry you are having trouble but the crying might be life affirming. Can you reach out to him?
Feb 19, 2022
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by: Anonymous

You describe a situation that sounds you are having a difficult time. Have you tried approaching your spouse with offers for what you miss?
Aug 08, 2020
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by: Anonymous

Hello
It’s so sad to hear this, men should realize that we are needy as women. I hear you say that he is a great provider. Maybe pillow talk and don’t cry inform how you truly feel.

Maybe you need to go shopping alone spend some funds, go out with some decent co workers be are to look cute so he can see. Also if need get a pedi and a manicure.

Go out again if need, and always pray


I hope things get better
Jul 24, 2020
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by: Anonymous

I can relate. I can’t communicate with my husband because it will turn into an argument. I am tired of it!!! He is stubborn and set in his ways. Our intimacy is not all that. I have suggested counseling and of course his stupid pride won’t allow him to do the right thing. I deserve better. We have been married 9 years and together 11.

To help you out I have asked him to leave because my peace is more important to me. Hope this helps.

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