I Think my husband has a crush on my sister

by Sarah
(TX)

Hey, long story short, I started noticing how much my husband looks at my sister (a 10/10 gorgeous, kind woman) and I think he has a crush on her. The only evidence I have of this is how many times I notice him looking at her, especially when there's a joke he would look at her first, before he even looked at me.


I'm not unattractive, but I'm definitely not in the same league as my sister. It hurts a lot emotionally, because I've felt like the invisible one for most my life. My husband is a wonderful man and my absolute favorite person in the world. And I guess I'm truly paranoid that I never would have been his first choice. I don't think he's going to cheat on me or anything, hes an amazing man. But just having these thoughts in my head are hurting me so much emotionally and I feel like if I bring it up to him he's going to lie and I'll spend the rest of my life with these thoughts in my head. I dont know what to do. All I've ever wanted was to be someone's first choice.

Any advice on how to navigate this for the best outcome is welcome. I'm afraid telling him will alter our relationship, but so will not telling him.

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Jul 12, 2024
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Sarah, your husband has already made his first choice:you.But I can see how this worries you. So talk to your husband and tell him how his affects you. He may be unaware, and talking about it will bring it out into the open. If he actually knows what he is doing, you might both talk with a marriage therapist and figure things out.You can find a qualified counselor at www.therapistlocator.net.

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