Husband

by Anonymous
(Usa)

My husband has a daughter (my step daughter) who is turning 22. She is so dependent on her father and she can do no wrong in his eyes. I always feel like second fiddle. He put his company in her name and the company bank account is in her name. She refuses to get her licence so daddy has to drive her everywhere. She is so immature and needy. If I say anything bad about her he will go psycho (bipolar) and call me names. How do I deal with this.

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Oct 25, 2024
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by: Eugene

You’re in a difficult position: your husband‘s relationship with his daughter has been longer than yours with him. The two of you are married and hopefully conducting your relationship as a partnership of sorts, where everything is shared by the two of you. It sounds like he gets very defensive when you talk about his daughter. So when you do rather than expressing your criticism of him and her, it would do you good to just speak from a "I" position. You can express how you feel and how it affects you without attacking his daughter, which will get you nowhere.

Ultimately, the best solution will be to go into family therapy and work out a solution that benefits you all. Good luck.

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