Friendzone

by Anonymous.

My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. The last 10 have been not good at all.


Arguments, feeling neglected, feel like he is not putting in enough effort for our family. I have been very clear on what I need, he has not been clear. I try to just move along and try to not let it bother me just to keep my sanity and just focus on my work, my kids and myself.

I even told him that I wasn't in love with him anymore, which is true, in hopes that he may want to step up or at least be real with what he wants and nothing has changed.

I am at the point where it's awkward. Almost like my marriage has entered the proverbial "Friendzone" where I cant see being intimate or functioning as a couple. TIA

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Feb 21, 2025
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by: Eugene Kayser LMFT

Dear Friendzone, over time marriages can lose some of their passion and romance. Children and careers need attention and sometimes we forget about the person that we love. A good suggestion is to go to a marriage counselor and see if you can figure out what is lacking and get some help with it. Just make sure that they are a specialist in marital work and have the proper training. Good luck.

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