Crazy

by G
(G)

My wife of 25 years told me she slept with a black guy before we were married. 25 years in and she tells me. I can't get it out of my head. What do I do?


Spare any racist comments. I marched in BLM marches where I live. Now I can't stand seeing or hearing black people of any age or sex. I am traumatized by this news. Now I learn that she had multiple partners I had no idea about.

It's driving me nuts! we are in therapy and I'm talking to a hypnotist today. She knows how I feel, but loves me and is sticking by me. Any suggestions folks?

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Dec 25, 2024
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by: Anonymous

If it was before you two met, then I don't think I'd worry about it. If it was why you were together it's completely different, I wouldn't be able to deal with that.
Dec 24, 2024
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by: Gene Kayser LMFT

Infidelity is always difficult to deal with, and I’m glad you two are seeing a therapist. I hope it’s someone trained in couples therapy. As for your obsession over black people, I’m not sure a hypnotherapist will help. See you can find someone who is trained in this kind of reaction to trauma.

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